Before Amber starts blogging about embarking on her once-and-for-all weight loss journey I asked her to take some time to tell us about the man she’s marrying: Brandon!
How we met
Before I met Brandon I had been single for 3 years. I had moved to Frederick, MD and started a new job. I dated here and there but nothing substantial. Well that all changed July 3rd 2010…
I met Brandon at a party I had been going to every year since I was 17, at my friend Arleigh’s house.
Some background: I met Arleigh when I was a senior in high school. I had just moved from Northern, VA to Williamsburg and I was like a fish out of water. Arleigh, Ericka, LaCrystal let me into their group and all through senior year we were pretty tight. To this day Arleigh is the only person I have kept in contact with. I was in her wedding (she’s in mine) and I’m her daughter’s Godmother. I love her, she has always been my family.
BrandonArleigh’s birthday is on the 4th of July so she always has a party. On top of that, she always has parties. So over the years, I have definitely searched for many friends of friends that could possibly be my new boo.
I was at Arleigh’s party and her cousin, Taneika approached me. We were in Arleigh’s bridal party so we had known each other since 2007 and had gotten along pretty well. She asked if I was dating anyone and I told her no. She said her brother wanted to meet me. He had dreads, and was dressed very unlike your typical “bad boy.”
He had such a sweet smile so we talked for a bit and at the end of the night he asked for my phone number and the very next day he came to my house to pick me up for a date!
We had such a good time and our relationship just continued! He would send me sweet texts in the morning. He was just so different. He made me feel special, and sexy, and he had a lot going for him. He came to Frederick constantly and eventually moved there to be closer to me!! Brandon helps me to be a stronger person. He helps me to not get lost in my head with very negative thoughts. We have been through a lot and I couldn’t imagine marrying anyone else.
My first date with Brandon in August 2010.
The proposal
December 2013 Brandon proposed! It was Christmas day. My whole family was there and we had just finished opening presents. He then got down on one knee and I just remember screaming. It felt like a dream. It felt unreal because I had been waiting!! What girl doesn’t wait?!?! The rest of the day was spent smiling and showing off my ring. It was two sizes too small so I had to jam it on my finger all day. But man it was worth a purple finger the next day. After the ring got sized Brandon got on his knee in the jewelry store when we picked it up and it was such an added, sweet bonus.
Our Future
I can’t wait to marry him and spend the rest of our lives together. I know that no matter what comes our way he will be there with me every step ready to fight for me and with me against anything. He has never even seen me below 215 pounds and is still crazy about me. It’s funny that I can be so negative, so depressed, feel like things are so awful and well just overall a feeling of “less than.” Yet I have this amazing man who puts up with my emotional tirades, my constant overanalyzing platitudes, and my feelings of not having enough by holding my hand and saying “everything will be okay.” God has blessed me and through everything I have to remember what matters: God matters. Brandon matters. Family matters. Being healthy matters. Happiness matters. Love matters.
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